What to expect from the first counselling session
It’s completely normal to feel a little nervous about starting counselling. The first session is a gentle way to begin — there’s no pressure to say anything before you’re ready.
Safe space
Our time together is about creating a safe, private space where you can talk openly and feel heard without judgement. In this first meeting, I’ll invite you to share a little about what’s brought you to counselling and what you hope to get from it. You don’t need to have everything worked out — many people simply know that something doesn’t feel right and want some space to explore it.
Working together
I’ll also explain how counselling works, including confidentiality and what you can expect from me. We can talk about what you might find helpful, and you’re welcome to ask any questions about the process.
By the end of the session, you’ll have a clearer sense of how we might work together and whether this feels like the right fit for you. There’s no obligation to continue — it’s entirely your choice.
Why Counselling for Ex-Boarders is Different
Boarding school shapes more than your education — it shapes your inner world. Many ex-boarders find that the skills and strategies that helped them survive school continue to influence their adult lives. You might notice:
A habit of self-reliance that can feel isolating
Difficulty trusting others or letting people in
Feeling out of step with ordinary social or emotional life
Questions about identity and belonging that never fully go away
Standard counselling may not always address these experiences directly. In sessions for ex-boarders, the focus is on the specific patterns, emotional habits, and relational challenges that often come from life in boarding school. This is a space where your history is understood, your questions are taken seriously, and you can explore your sense of self without judgment.
Here, you can start to make sense of your past, understand how it shapes your present, and take steps toward a life that feels authentically yours.
Questions?
Are the number of sessions limited?
No. If you would prefer a set number of sessions, please let me know.
What is my cancellation policy?
Life is full of surprises - so if you are not able to make your appointment please let me know as soon as possible. You may want to reschedule. Late cancellations (less than 24 hours notice), or if you don't turn up without letting me know will incur a charge of half the fee for the session. Likewise, I will let you know in good time if I need to cancel or if I'm going to be away.
Do I have to come every week?
No, but therapy works best when there's the continuity afforded by weekly sessions.
I'm afraid I won't know what to say.
That's okay. Part of my role is to help you feel comfortable and at ease. There's no pressure. I find that asking open questions often helps clients find direction.
Will you tell anyone else about I what I say?
No, everything you say is strictly confidential. I will go over this with you at the start of counselling.
Do you take notes during the session?
No, I don't. If I make any notes I will do that after the session. You have the right to see them.
How do I book a session with you?
You can book an introductory call through the link below. This will provide an opportunity to arrange a time for your session, should you wish to start counselling with me.